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       Happy New Year! While we move into the new year, how are we feeling about ourselves and what do do we want to accomplish in 2026? If you sets goals to make improvements to your life this year, increasing self-confidence can help with that. According to Oxford dictionary, self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities and judgement. More importantly, self-confidence is acceptance of self. I pride myself on highlighting the importance of self-love in your life and there is a direct correlation between the two: self-love involves knowing and appreciating your worth which is the foundation for confidence to grow. There is a science behind uncovering ways to enhance self-confidence. There are the most conventional ways which include improving your habits, environment, and enhancing your positive self-talk. However, there are also more innovative (beyond the box) ways to boost your self-confidence this year. Note, that in order to grow, you must...

Today, I am going to give a brief tutorial on being "kind" vs. being "nice". I want people to consider the fact that being "nice" isn't good enough.  I grew up with knowing there is a huge difference between nice and being a kind person. Being, "Kind" is the ideal way to conduct yourself. To me, kindness is about connections; making positive connections with people with the idea of being genuine and thoughtful. Kindness involves vulnerability. However, some people have trouble with authenticity and being vulnerable. We live in a society of immediate gratification, fake people, insecurity, and false expectations and desires. People choose to align with what is easy instead of what is right! For this reason, people choose to be, "nice". Being "nice" is not enough. There is complexity to these terms. So let's talk about the differences between being, "nice" and "kind". Nice is a social mask that people...

  As of 2022, The Pew Research Center found 30% of U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner, nor engaged in a committed relationship. Additionally, 1/2 of young adults inthe U.S. are single. What the?! Why be in a relationship when you can, “hookup” with no expectations.Let's talk about hookup culture! What is hookup culture? Is this a healthy dynamic? Why is hookup culture popular in today's society? Are there negative effects engaging in this behavior; Does this behavior negatively impact women? My original intention was to answer these questions, in an effort to talk about hookup culture as part of a series of educational videos/posts during Domestic Violence Awareness month to raise awareness about healthy relationships but, time ran out. However, we can still have an honest discussion  and continue the conversations about our current relationship climate that will help us understand the current trend of , "hooking up." I decided to talk about this t...

  Why do we say the phrase, "Hurt people, hurt people," when we hear conversations about people doing others wrong?  Why do we take comfort in assuming that the hurt was unintentional.  There are many phrases and sayings that I feel society needs to abandon because they no longer serve the well-being of humanity. Basically, letting go of ideals or old belief systems that no longer serve our highest and greatest good. There are numerous beliefs that our society holds onto with bloody fingernails because they are rooted in the foundations of our upbringing and environment. People resist change. People love comfort zones. Some people even avoid feelings. For this reason, and because growth offers opportunity; I want to abandon the phrase, “Hurt people, hurt people.” First of all, this is actually a quote by Will Bowen, “ Hurt people, hurt people. We are not being judgmental by separating ourselves from such people.     But we should do so with compassion.” If the q...

*This post was written 6 months ago*  The global wellness market is valued at over 4.75 trillion (wellnesscreative.com 2022 statistics). There is a demand for self-improvement, homeopathic or alternative ways to achieve better health or mindset. Where there is a need, there are always people waiting to exploit people's desperation to look and feel better. I believe that most people have great intentions to help others achieve their highest potential; however, we have to be mindful of those that don't. I am not a consumer advocate but, if a sell is too good to be true and people promise you the world and total transformation, I'd run for the hills. That’s a huge indication of fraud. What concerns me about the wellness industry is that some of these organizations are cult-like and require you to be a part of a controlling following. At this point, your chances of becoming victimized either financially, emotionally, or physically becomes a given. My dear friend, who works for ...

 Hi everyone, I thought I'd take a brief moment and share some of my favorite YouTube yogis. I attribute a lot of my healing, growth and change to the practice of self-care. When I began my healing journey, I started to practice meditation and yoga. Both of these spiritual practices helped me remain grounded and focused which is important when your are healing emotional pain or trauma. I encourage you to consider and take a look at these YouTube yogis to help you on your journey to enlightenment. Check out the following YouTubers: 1. Ekhart Yoga- This was the very first channel that I visited and started to work with. Ekhart Yoga is a great channel for those new to yoga and meditation. I would consider this channel great for beginners. I learned the basic poses of yoga and began to learn about meditation and how to meditate.  https://www.youtube.com/c/Ekhartyoga 2. Yoga with Kassandra- If you are open to spirituality, this is the best channel for you. She is non evasive about ...