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  As of 2022, The Pew Research Center found 30% of U.S. adults are neither married, living with a partner, nor engaged in a committed relationship. Additionally, 1/2 of young adults inthe U.S. are single. What the?! Why be in a relationship when you can, “hookup” with no expectations.Let's talk about hookup culture! What is hookup culture? Is this a healthy dynamic? Why is hookup culture popular in today's society? Are there negative effects engaging in this behavior; Does this behavior negatively impact women? My original intention was to answer these questions, in an effort to talk about hookup culture as part of a series of educational videos/posts during Domestic Violence Awareness month to raise awareness about healthy relationships but, time ran out. However, we can still have an honest discussion  and continue the conversations about our current relationship climate that will help us understand the current trend of , "hooking up." I decided to talk about this t

  Why do we say the phrase, "Hurt people, hurt people," when we hear conversations about people doing others wrong?  Why do we take comfort in assuming that the hurt was unintentional.  There are many phrases and sayings that I feel society needs to abandon because they no longer serve the well-being of humanity. Basically, letting go of ideals or old belief systems that no longer serve our highest and greatest good. There are numerous beliefs that our society holds onto with bloody fingernails because they are rooted in the foundations of our upbringing and environment. People resist change. People love comfort zones. Some people even avoid feelings. For this reason, and because growth offers opportunity; I want to abandon the phrase, “Hurt people, hurt people.” First of all, this is actually a quote by Will Bowen, “ Hurt people, hurt people. We are not being judgmental by separating ourselves from such people.     But we should do so with compassion.” If the quote was actua

*This post was written 6 months ago*  The global wellness market is valued at over 4.75 trillion (wellnesscreative.com 2022 statistics). There is a demand for self-improvement, homeopathic or alternative ways to achieve better health or mindset. Where there is a need, there are always people waiting to exploit people's desperation to look and feel better. I believe that most people have great intentions to help others achieve their highest potential; however, we have to be mindful of those that don't. I am not a consumer advocate but, if a sell is too good to be true and people promise you the world and total transformation, I'd run for the hills. That’s a huge indication of fraud. What concerns me about the wellness industry is that some of these organizations are cult-like and require you to be a part of a controlling following. At this point, your chances of becoming victimized either financially, emotionally, or physically becomes a given. My dear friend, who works for

 Hi everyone, I thought I'd take a brief moment and share some of my favorite YouTube yogis. I attribute a lot of my healing, growth and change to the practice of self-care. When I began my healing journey, I started to practice meditation and yoga. Both of these spiritual practices helped me remain grounded and focused which is important when your are healing emotional pain or trauma. I encourage you to consider and take a look at these YouTube yogis to help you on your journey to enlightenment. Check out the following YouTubers: 1. Ekhart Yoga- This was the very first channel that I visited and started to work with. Ekhart Yoga is a great channel for those new to yoga and meditation. I would consider this channel great for beginners. I learned the basic poses of yoga and began to learn about meditation and how to meditate.  https://www.youtube.com/c/Ekhartyoga 2. Yoga with Kassandra- If you are open to spirituality, this is the best channel for you. She is non evasive about spiri

 Recently, I decided to start providing professional support to people that want to transform their lives through the practice of self-love. Throughout the years, I have worked with victims of violent crime, trauma survivors, and their families get through their victimization and the process of the criminal justice system. I have counseled thousands of people and realized that people are often conditioned to hold on to their trauma and pain. People hold on to pain out of fear or obligation. Because of this realization, I found that the practice of self-love is important to heal trauma and past pain. It is an ultimate act of self-love to begin the healing process with analyzing what is present in your life that keeps you from emotional fulfillment and peace. We all deserve peace, love and true happiness in our lives; we are worthy. Letting go of what doesn't serve you is not a "new age" phrase or a trend; it's common sense. What holds us back from emotional maturity, i

 Have you ever asked yourself: Am I living my life to the fullest? Are there things about myself or life that I would like to change? These are all self-evaluation questions that are worthy of your attention; especially if you are feeling lack or uncertainty in your life. I definitely asked these questions a few years ago because, I was feeling very unfulfilled in my life and struggling to understand my place. Many times, as human beings living in the moment and as a coping mechanism, we put on a mask and pretend to be okay but hurting on the inside. Life requires balance and recognizing an imbalance is the beginning to discovering your full potential. Being the best version of yourself means being the authentic, "YOU." A trick to understanding your authentic self requires honesty about the things you are currently doing in your life that are creating unhappiness, uncertainty, negativity etc. You have to reflect on your shadow side (negative characteristics about your persona